check out indiebride, "...a place for would-be brides who have more on their minds than planning a reception, women who never for a second believed in prince charming and who have not, despite all of the cultural cues, been breathlessly awaiting their wedding day for their whole life." right on. reclaiming and reinventing the fairy tale! there's a great article about being single at a wedding shower. i've gotta say...been there, done that!
i just remembered wearing black to laura's wedding (ok...i was one of the musicians), therefore serving as the wedding's anti-bride. someone had to do it, right?